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Old 10-02-2003, 15:02:56   #101
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"Seems like things are cooling off with professor girl. first date was EXTREMELY successful. Second was rather cold. Not sure what her deal is..."

Maybe just female "flactuations". Try a third.
If she doesn't want to call me, than that is it. But, I'm invited to a party at her house on saturday. Since things have cooled off, is it ok if I go anyway and hit on girls there (seriously). I already confirmed the e-invite.
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"If she doesn't want to call me"

Did she say she'd call you? or was it her who invited you to that party?

"is it ok if I go anyway and hit on girls there (seriously)"

Wrt her, that can work in any direction. Random principle.
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"If she doesn't want to call me"

Did she say she'd call you? or was it her who invited you to that party?

"is it ok if I go anyway and hit on girls there (seriously)"

Wrt her, that can work in any direction. Random principle.
No, she didn't say she would call. I'm not expecting a call based on the much less intimate second date. It's just that that is a signal to me. She's a big girl and liberated and all. I asked her out the first couple dates and took the initiative. She will call if she's interested. She's rather assertive in manner.

I may just not be her cup of tea. Or she may be a little schizoid. She already said that I was abnormally sane and unexcitable. And most girls don't find that a turnoff. But if I'm not what she's looking for...that's cool too.

If I go and hit on other girls there, it would mostly be to keep me occupied and to hook up with one. It would not be to get her jealous (well...maybe a little). But, I don't want to be rude. I'm pretty sure that I'm not her "date" for the party. So why shouldn't I hit on other girls and she hit on other guys.

The other solution is to blow the thing off. She already e-invited me and I said e-yes. But I can change my e-answer. I guess the other thing is that it seems like it will be bad odds (more guys than girls).


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What you have to do is appear abnormally insane and excitable. Perhaps you could set fire to your feet and dance comically around the party whilst shouting "fish! fish! wibble I'm a teapot!"
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"She already said that I was abnormally sane and unexcitable."

Not good. I wonder what normally insane is, though....

"I guess the other thing is that it seems like it will be bad odds (more guys than girls)."

Can't you get a "date" for the party, too?
(I have to note that I'm never sure what degree of closeness you anglos mean when you talk about dates and dating - it seems to be used for a very, very wide range)
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"She already said that I was abnormally sane and unexcitable."

Not good. I wonder what normally insane is, though....

"I guess the other thing is that it seems like it will be bad odds (more guys than girls)."

Can't you get a "date" for the party, too?
(I have to note that I'm never sure what degree of closeness you anglos mean when you talk about dates and dating - it seems to be used for a very, very wide range)
Well...the conversation seems to be diverging. When I say a date, I mean a romantic evening (or day or whatever) out. Will be at least a peck on the lips kiss at the end. I'll pay or offer to pay if there are expenses. I will propose the entertainment and take care of logistics, driving, etc. If I invite a platonic female freind out for an evening that is not a date. (No kiss at the end...no "courtship".)

Not sure why I would bring a date to this party. Figure that would make things even more weird. Plus if I do have a date, it would be a first date and I would want the evening to ourselves...
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Not sure why I would bring a date to this party. Figure that would make things even more weird. Plus if I do have a date, it would be a first date and I would want the evening to ourselves...
That would be more "date" than I meant. As I said, I'm never sure about this term.

"She already said that I was abnormally sane and unexcitable. And most girls don't find that a turnoff."

Add a slight touch of insanity to your person. Blame it on the nuclear stuff.
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That would be more "date" than I meant. As I said, I'm never sure about this term.

"She already said that I was abnormally sane and unexcitable. And most girls don't find that a turnoff."

Add a slight touch of insanity to your person. Blame it on the nuclear stuff.
I'm both too lazy and too self-confident to try to change my personality for a woman. I've never done it before. Seems like the key for me is more finding a good one and getting myself to fall in love. Besides, you know I can be excitable...when drunk.

Maybe she just doesn't like my fat ass. That would be easier to understand. That or she forgot to take her lithium. Or she doesn't like me being a baby-killing ex-Navy guy. Maybe she needs to be tamed like the famous shrew. But I'm too damned lazy for that, too.

Whatever, she is a smart girl. And not bad-looking. Hopefully she will be smart enough to find someone compatible with her.

She is really smart to talk to, though. A lot of fun, there...

Do you really think I should bring a friend type date? Am I allowed to hit on other women at the party than?
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I hate the "maybe"-problem. Been meeting a girl with similar undicipherable patterns for a while now. Got into the most useless mode of all, thinking about it and trying to make sense of it.

Anyway, why I don't just call it quits is that I'd instantly rate her 10, and that my best friend had gone through a similar (actually worse) experience with "dating" a girl - they've been happily married for what 8 years now.

Two dates with differeing behaviour, so what. So many things that can influence that. Of course if you're lazy, no reason to bother. But leads me to:

"Do you really think I should bring a friend type date?"

Compared to the alternatives of a) just not going and b) facing a bad girl/guy ratio with a bit of bad luck hanging around alone... if you don't care about her at all, of course, I'd just say don't go there if the party itself isn't worth it.

"Seems like the key for me is more finding a good one and getting myself to fall in love."

Maybe you are _too_ lazy?
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That is part of the problem...
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But I've had gf's who were muy simpatico. Marriage material. But I was too committment shy. Just broke their hearts instead.

Well...ok....one who I wish I'd married.
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Not sure what you should do with yours. You are so different from me anyway.
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"But I was too committment shy."

So was/am I, maybe too often.

"Not sure what you should do with yours."

Neither am I. Thankfully I no longer think about it, just see what happens.

"You are so different from me anyway."

I doubt that.
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maybe we should have a relationship thread

would be a good idea

I won't post it though

I am so horrid with women that any posts by me would be useless

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Useless, isn't that what we all are...
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GP, i think your major relationship problem is that you discuss yours with a crazy austrian lawyer.

I say listen to some combination of your head, heart and dick.
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"your major relationship problem is that you discuss yours with a crazy austrian lawyer"

I can't believe he did that either.
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after that, it's the same old fucking thing all over again.
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I'm getting more and more loose with my remarks on the net.
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I'm getting more and more loose with my remarks on the net.
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you were posting here a lot

and than while still here on this site, quit posting in this thread

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I think those integrals are going to your brain.

I asked for a CG ban, but they wouldn't give it to me.

Oh...that same girl wants to go to a movie some time, now. Don't know what her deal is. But I am definitely going to cool things down. Can't stand a tease. I equivocated in response to her remark.
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"Oh...that same girl wants to go to a movie some time, now."

The prof?

"I equivocated in response to her remark."

You did WHAT!??
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Yes.

I equivocated.
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You're a quick one...Ah-nold.
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The other possibility is that she likes you but sometimes gets distracted by other things.

Reminds me of this joke. Girl and her boyfriend go out for the evening. They are talking about it to their respective friends the next day.

She says, "He was acting really strange, when we met up, he was acting really moody. The conversation was really forced. He didn't seem interested in me. I don't know what's wroing, maybe he's going off me. Then at the end of the evening he came back to my place, he still seemed really detatched and wouldn't talk, we made love... Oh I don't know what should I do."

He says: "Football was shit, we lost again. Got laid though."
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i check my hair at the elevator mirror and the highlight of my day when I say hi to a girl who's opposite of the elevator door at my floor. the one i went out with.
after that, it's the same old fucking thing all over again.
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I think it works both ways as well. Sometimes peoples moods are nothing to do with us but our own egos assume they must be.
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Some behaviours can have reasons you'd never expect. I once knew an attractive, intelligent, and (I thought) self-confident woman. She appeared to me to be not interested at all, I was a lot more shy at the time, nothing happened. Much later, a common friend tells me (and I have no reason to doubt her) that she acted that way as she was convinced I'd never be interested in her, and she has incredibly low self-esteem in that regard. She then also went with a guy who IMO was miles below her standard.

We mutually misunderestimated us out of our ways.
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I developped the 5-8-10 theory to eyplain the phenomenon.
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Is it...

You will ask someone out who you think is a 5, you should be going out with someone you think is an 8 but someone you think is a 10 is too much?
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Not quite. Assume two people who would be generally rated as 8.

The man sees himself as a 5, and her as a 10 as he is in love.
The woman sees herself as a 5, and him as a 10 as she is in love.

The percieved gap restricts both from approaching the other. Both see that as confirmation of their relative inferiority.

Which is why I no longer bother with my ugliness.
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The key is to just ask them out anyway. I kinda see the whole thing as a bit of a game. Sometimes I don't try hard enough. But I've also gone up to the prettiest girl in school (or office) and just asked for a date point-blank. Surprising what you can get by asking, sometimes. Girls like guts. And I never fault myself if I get turned down. Just clap myself on the back for having some balls. Makes me feel good regardless the outcome. Only time I feel bad is when I don't go for it.

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OK that makes sense.
I'm going to kill you for that.
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