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Rodgers 01-02-2005 10:24:34

Which shop (UK) should I use for my Wedding List?
 
Gotta do one of those lists for our guests to choose our wedding gifts from. The gf is quite a Debenhams fan but I've always seen that place as pretending to be more upmarket than it really is. I'm leaning more towards M&S or possibly John Lewis (although her family arent exactly loaded so the last one may be taking the piss slightly).

Has anyone done this sort of thing before? (either as the marrying couple or the person selecting from the list)

miester gandertak 01-02-2005 10:25:59

Christine le Duc?

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 10:26:46

As a Guest - Debenhams.

It was great. All online. Took about a minute.

King_Ghidra 01-02-2005 10:33:34

John Lewis - my mates did it and it was very easy to use when i bought them some knives or something off of it - again, online.

miester gandertak 01-02-2005 10:33:44

As a pervert - Christine le Duc

It was great. All online. Took about a minute.

Scabrous Birdseed 01-02-2005 10:44:13

This British "wedding list" practice just seems so unimaginative, callous and incredibly dull to my ears- what happened to the idea of giving presents out of the goodness of your heart that you like and think will fit the reciever?

Sorry.

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 10:52:01

Scabby, I agree with that in some ways.

There is a historical practical purpose. The ideas is that the couple will be setting up home for the first time and the list is a list of practical stuff they need like toasters and cutlery. The idea of the list is to make sure they get what they need and not 100 toasters.

I think these days with people marrying later and living away from home or together more before they marry it's less relevant but still useful.

Tizzy 01-02-2005 10:56:11

I think if anything it's even more relevant and useful these days, as people are more likely to already have things they need, for the resaons you've given.

Gary 01-02-2005 10:56:14

'War on Want' ?

Rodgers 01-02-2005 11:00:40

Quote:

Originally posted by Funkodrom
Scabby, I agree with that in some ways.

There is a historical practical purpose. The ideas is that the couple will be setting up home for the first time and the list is a list of practical stuff they need like toasters and cutlery. The idea of the list is to make sure they get what they need and not 100 toasters.

I think these days with people marrying later and living away from home or together more before they marry it's less relevant but still useful.


Yeah, but also we dont trust our (older) relatives to exercise decent taste when choosing stuff for us - we could end up with some real nasty stuff if we arent careful.

I like the idea of guests being able to do stuff online - more chance of them making the effort then. Debenhams and JL in the lead so far then.

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 11:01:45

Quote:

Originally posted by Tizzy
I think if anything it's even more relevant and useful these days, as people are more likely to already have things they need, for the resaons you've given.
Yeah... good point.

King_Ghidra 01-02-2005 11:06:49

Quote:

Originally posted by Scabrous Birdseed
This British "wedding" practice just seems so unimaginative, callous and incredibly dull to my ears
i'm sure this is what you meant to say :D

Gary 01-02-2005 11:12:17

I have chosen from a store list. Not on line, before the Net was that ubiquitous, but I went to M&S and sorted it in the store.

It was ok, I guess, certainly shortened the time taken. But I wasn't that keen. I know that the alternative was to read though a couple's hand written list and risk duplication, but somehow it seemed so mechanical.

Besides whilst it ensures you get what the couple wants, it also means that you pay the prices that the couple has dictated. (And doesn't the store add on a bit for the privilege ? Too long ago to recall now, but I think they might.)

And getting there after all the others have already snapped up the reasonably priced items, is a pain too. And it's all so restrictive.

In fact I'm a little off about a list in the first place to be honest. Over time it's gone from, being happy with whatever's given, to a suggestion list, as it's sensible to avoid getting gifts that are unwanted. Which seems reasonable except that it moves in the direction of dictating what other will give. Then on to the store listings, as it's sensible to actually define the gift and avoid getting two of the same, except that, that is even further into dictating what's bought, and what's paid for it.

A gift ought not be demanded really, but gratefully received as a nice 'surprise' that wasn't a necessity but a wonderful gesture from friends and family. Sadly the emphasis has been changed over time by the couples in collusion with commercial interests.

But given that that's the way things have gone, I think, if possible, it may be an idea to have a combination. A paper handout with suggestions for those who wish to give something, and maybe a couple of stores running lists. Although it won't get rid of the possible duplication problem, I think that's a small price to pay for the freedom of the giver to go elsewhere without feeling guilty about it. After all things wear out so a duplication isn't that much of a problem.

Gary 01-02-2005 11:15:33

Yeah, but also we don't trust our (older) relatives to exercise decent taste when choosing stuff for us - we could end up with some real nasty stuff if we aren't careful.

This is the problem. Couples think they are entitled rather than privileged.

I like the idea of guests being able to do stuff online - more chance of them making the effort then.

I'd have thought the whole idea of the Net was to make less effort. Unless you're one of the (older) relatives who don't know a PC from a dishwasher.

HelloKitty 01-02-2005 11:16:16

Tescos?

Gary 01-02-2005 11:18:30

'Victoria's Secret' ?

HelloKitty 01-02-2005 11:21:40

Can you register on Ebay?

Tizzy 01-02-2005 11:21:54

Quote:

Originally posted by Gary
Yeah, but also we don't trust our (older) relatives to exercise decent taste when choosing stuff for us - we could end up with some real nasty stuff if we aren't careful.

This is the problem. Couples think they are entitled rather than privileged.


I don't think it's that at all.
Couples getting married know people will buy them gifts, that's the way things are done. Maybe not all guests will, but the majority certainly.
That in no way suggests the couple won't appreciate any presents they get. A list is a practical idea though, because it's hard to appreciate 10 toasters!

Gary 01-02-2005 11:25:54

See HelloKitty's post above :)

Rodgers 01-02-2005 11:42:54

The Greeks have the best plan for wedding gifts - everyone gives cash! No complaints, no duplication, no worries :D

Gary 01-02-2005 12:23:55

That's it !!!! A list at Lloyds ;)

MDA 01-02-2005 12:57:50

Even with a list/registry you tend to end up with a lot of clocks.

Provost Harrison 01-02-2005 15:35:57

My mate did John Lewis. If it was me having to buy I'd put the gift list at Matalan :lol:

alsieboo 01-02-2005 15:39:45

Did I miss the wedding announcement thread?

Provost Harrison 01-02-2005 15:40:36

If I get married, my wedding list is going to be at Wong Kei's ;)

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 15:49:01

:lol:

Or the catering for the reception?

Provost Harrison 01-02-2005 15:50:41

Now that is a good idea :lol:

zmama 01-02-2005 15:57:32

Crispy Duck for all!!!

Provost Harrison 01-02-2005 16:00:39

Hehe, do the wedding toast with sake :D

Eklektikos 01-02-2005 16:01:13

Quote:

Originally posted by zmama
Crispy Duck for all!!!
Now that's a slogan I could march under!

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 16:06:05

The wedding Sesame Prawn Toast?

Provost Harrison 01-02-2005 16:06:34

:lol:

zmama 01-02-2005 16:08:02

I'm getting very hungry!!!

Tizzy 01-02-2005 16:10:22

Mmm, chinese *drool*

Rodgers 01-02-2005 16:23:02

Sadly, it's traditional fare. Evening buffet should be good, though.

Not sure on the drinks though - Pimms, Bucks Fizz, Kir Royale or cheap Champers for arriving guests?

Tizzy 01-02-2005 16:24:40

You can't really go wrong with Bucks Fizz

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 16:24:45

Pimms

zmama 01-02-2005 16:25:16

Kir Royale

Immortal Wombat 01-02-2005 16:25:38

cheap Champers

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 16:26:00

That's that sorted then. :lol:

Tizzy 01-02-2005 16:26:09

Good work guys :D

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 16:26:57

Were they all x-posts or did anyone deliberately try and complete the set?

Rodgers 01-02-2005 16:28:26

Quote:

Originally posted by Tizzy
You can't really go wrong with Bucks Fizz

It isnt what it used to be ;)

zmama 01-02-2005 16:28:37

I picked the one I think I'd like the best. I love Champagne but the cheap stuff can be dreadful

Rodgers 01-02-2005 16:29:28

Quote:

Originally posted by Funkodrom
Pimms

My favourite - it's an August wedding so we're hoping (foolishly) for sunshine

Rodgers 01-02-2005 16:30:15

Quote:

Originally posted by zmama
I picked the one I think I'd like the best. I love Champagne but the cheap stuff can be dreadful

Yeah, it's too expensive to lay on goodstuff for 100+ people :(

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 16:34:19

Quote:

Originally posted by zmama
I picked the one I think I'd like the best. I love Champagne but the cheap stuff can be dreadful
I thought he meant good non-French sparkling which is about 1/3 the cost of champagne. Well that's what I'd get if it was that option not Pimms. Lindauer or something. Mmm.

Funkodrom 01-02-2005 16:37:19

Quote:

Originally posted by Rodgers
My favourite - it's an August wedding so we're hoping (foolishly) for sunshine
Yeah, hot summers day, Pimms reception. Great.

Plus it tends to be weaker once mixed and people get less destroyed so early.

Rodgers 01-02-2005 16:39:43

Good call all round

Dyl Ulenspiegel 01-02-2005 16:46:34

Quote:

Originally posted by Scabrous Birdseed
This British "wedding list" practice just seems so unimaginative, callous and incredibly dull to my ears- what happened to the idea of giving presents out of the goodness of your heart that you like and think will fit the reciever?

Sorry.

What do they do in Sweden? Get together for a happy looting party, like in the IKEA adverts?


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