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devilmunchkin
20-12-2011, 21:05:49
entering in to week three.

Knew the guy from before I moved here so I suppose that makes it a little bit more ok.

I just have no idea to act. Are there certain rules to follow?

I already know I'm nuts - which has me stressed out because I really like the guy.

Though can you call it dating if you haven't officially defined what the relationship is? Do people define what they are anymore (when dating)? :vom:

Greg W
20-12-2011, 21:53:33
I don't even know if the old definitions of what a date is even apply any more. If you meet someone for a coffee does that make it a "date" or a "meet and greet". How about the next time you catch up? Who knows any more? As for defining relationships, that seems to be a minefield these days. Some want it done very early, some just leave it unspoken.

As for the rules, they seem to vary. Having dated online for quite a while now, many people of both sexes seem to find nothing wrong in seeing multiple people at once until they make up their mind which one suits them best. At the end of the day, just be yourself and do what feels right to you. Not much advice, but it's about the best I can give.

Provost Harrison
20-12-2011, 23:39:40
Tell me about it. Ever felt you have done as much as you can but your best is never good enough? That's my position currently...

devilmunchkin
21-12-2011, 00:46:36
Greg: I can't do online dating anymore. When I was much younger, it was easy and I was okay with the distance. I can't handle that anymore. There also doesn't seem to be much of a success rate, which is not what I'm looking for.

I totally don't like the dating other people idea.

Provost: It is not the position I'm currently in, though as usual, I worry that I will be.

I have had the experience you speak of in most of my other relationships and even growing up. I have self worth baggage out the yin yang.

We can bemone my lack of social knowhow and your situation tomorrow or Thursday, eh?

Koshko
21-12-2011, 00:46:41
I don't date. I just concede defeat from life.

Venom
21-12-2011, 03:30:12
Blow him and he'll be yours forever.

devilmunchkin
21-12-2011, 04:38:01
Now that isn't true. I know that from experience.

C.G.B. Spender
21-12-2011, 06:51:18
I recommend marriage

Fistandantilus
21-12-2011, 08:44:40
Before datin even.

Dyl Ulenspiegel
21-12-2011, 09:12:25
I recommend marriage

How many?

Funko
21-12-2011, 09:25:36
It's kind of a good sign to be nervous about the beginning of a relationship?

I think relationships can evolve and don't have to be defined up front. Communication is the most important thing. If you can say you're freaking out 'cause you really like him but have a crap dating history, maybe you'll get a much better response than you think. People like being told that other people really like them.

Good luck anyway! :beer:

MOBIUS
21-12-2011, 11:03:20
We can bemone my lack of social knowhow and your situation tomorrow or Thursday, eh?

Is that a date...? ;)

Funko
21-12-2011, 11:11:48
OMG dm and PH in a tree K I S S I N G?!

Lurker
21-12-2011, 14:31:46
The biggest mistake possible in dating would be to accept any dating advice from this place.

devilmunchkin
21-12-2011, 14:41:25
Is that a date...? ;)

Iain is coming to - so no. Not unless it is a three way.

Funko - that sounds like good advice. He's known me for 3 years so he probably has a good idea about the hell I've been through. Unless he's totally dense, he probably knows I'm into him.

zmama
21-12-2011, 14:58:25
The biggest mistake possible in dating would be to accept any dating advice from this place.

Lurker knows

Funko
21-12-2011, 14:58:50
Iain is coming to - so no. Not unless it is a three way.

:gasmaske_puke:

MOBIUS
21-12-2011, 15:21:44
Definitely TMI!:eek:

Fistandantilus
21-12-2011, 15:24:54
Unless he's totally dense, he probably knows I'm into him.

The fact you say "probably knows" is worrying me. Direct approach works better with men :p

Funko
21-12-2011, 15:27:22
We are totally dense.

Fistandantilus
21-12-2011, 15:28:58
Absolutely.

mr_B
21-12-2011, 15:56:18
good luck Muffin and Venom's advice is always good

zmama
21-12-2011, 16:35:57
How many?


Three of course

Tizzy
21-12-2011, 16:54:56
The fact you say "probably knows" is worrying me. Direct approach works better with men :p

Yep, don't assume anything

MDA
21-12-2011, 21:42:56
dating sucks before marriage

Lazarus and the Gimp
21-12-2011, 21:45:37
Just concentrate on having fun.

C.G.B. Spender
21-12-2011, 21:57:29
amateur

MOBIUS
21-12-2011, 23:33:30
Yeah, always go with "men are dumb", works every time...

zmama
22-12-2011, 00:57:16
http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lkjy1z0Nii1qcpdtro1_500.jpg

devilmunchkin
22-12-2011, 01:10:06
Definitely TMI!:eek:

No no no! That was a joke! a joke! geez! :shoot: :tizzy:

We're just having a CG meet.

Is there an appropriate length of time to wait before you tell the guy "I like you a lot"? Or how can I tell when the time is right to say "I really like you"?

Yes - I really am this socially inept.

P.S. Laz - it's Matt.

Provost Harrison
22-12-2011, 01:41:25
Oh don't lie, it's going to be a wonderful menage-a-trois ;)

devilmunchkin
22-12-2011, 02:01:18
Not with me!

You and Iain will need to use your Grindr apps to find the third. :D

MDA
22-12-2011, 04:02:21
I'll be there!

devilmunchkin
22-12-2011, 05:27:55
I can't tell if you are joking since I don't know where you are :(

But, if anyone else is in the area, we're meeting at Font at 8 pm.

Lazarus and the Gimp
22-12-2011, 06:17:11
Matt as in Psychodolly?

Lazarus and the Gimp
22-12-2011, 06:42:41
I assumed at first it was Matt Higgs, hence my checking.

Cheshire Cat
22-12-2011, 08:24:59
I don't date. I just concede defeat from life.

I can't stand dates either

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_npyzxjOVANs/TPRiztdWmfI/AAAAAAAAJyU/knDtbvQ7DZ8/s1600/dates.jpg

they're TOO sweet

Funko
22-12-2011, 09:01:20
Just concentrate on having fun.

Yes. :beer:

Provost Harrison
22-12-2011, 10:37:25
Not with me!

You and Iain will need to use your Grindr apps to find the third. :D

Damn, I'm going to regret teaching you about that :p

Greg W
22-12-2011, 11:27:39
Is there an appropriate length of time to wait before you tell the guy "I like you a lot"? Or how can I tell when the time is right to say "I really like you"?I tend to think a month or so is fine, personally. It really depends on how twitchy they are though.

MOBIUS
22-12-2011, 11:27:47
No no no! That was a joke! a joke! geez! :shoot: :tizzy:

:lol:

Provost Harrison
22-12-2011, 11:45:09
I tend to think a month or so is fine, personally. It really depends on how twitchy they are though.

I discovered that if they are twitchy that you have to sever the spinal column.

MOBIUS
22-12-2011, 14:08:37
Could be where you've been going wrong?

devilmunchkin
22-12-2011, 16:29:36
Laz - Yes

Provost - oh yes! You'll totally regret it!

Twitchy - like chickens.

You know - ever since my last relationship that was so screwed up from start to finish, I don't trust my perception of people and how they feel. I think this last relationship was the one that finally and permanently broke your little munchkin.

I know what TESCO is now! The idea of these chain making mini-stores is pretty smart.

Lazarus and the Gimp
22-12-2011, 16:42:06
I've never been on a proper date. The thought of a relationship that doesn't start with drunken snogging from the outset just baffles me.

devilmunchkin
22-12-2011, 17:04:31
oh - I meant that yes it is Psychodolly.

What IS a proper date?

Provost Harrison
22-12-2011, 17:20:09
Psychodolly?

Dyl Ulenspiegel
22-12-2011, 18:03:20
Qu'est-ce que c'est...

devilmunchkin
22-12-2011, 18:17:26
Psychodolly?

The is the handle he goes by on another site Laz and I go to. His actual name is Matt.

paiktis
22-12-2011, 18:53:06
As one has said when you excpet everything you get nothing when you expect nothing you get everything. There are variations but I think that's true.
As long as there is physical attraction then have fun yes and tralalalala.
And after some time it will be defined and it's good when it is defined for what it really is. Of course that's ever evolving so meh..!

Lazarus and the Gimp
24-12-2011, 17:16:50
We'll be disappointed if there are no photos from the meet-up.

MDA
24-12-2011, 20:10:24
I'll be there!*

*no I won't

There are a lot of Matts.

zmama
24-12-2011, 20:12:04
Door
Bath
Car
Floor, etc


yeah lots of mats

MOBIUS
24-12-2011, 23:57:36
I prefer gloss...

mr_B
25-12-2011, 01:14:07
:rolleyes:

Provost Harrison
26-12-2011, 11:20:23
We'll be disappointed if there are no photos from the meet-up.

There are no pictures of the meetup I'm afraid...it would be indecent...

mr_B
26-12-2011, 11:58:16
ahhh ok you fell drunk on the pavement again?
inderdeed very very indecent

Provost Harrison
26-12-2011, 12:03:56
Speaking of which, devilmunchkin has never seen that picture...does anyone have a copy they can put up just so that she can compare "then" and "now" :)

The Shaker
26-12-2011, 15:39:36
http://www.muf.me.uk/files/london2005/sat2.htm

Koshko
26-12-2011, 18:07:16
:bouncmsk:

Provost Harrison
26-12-2011, 18:26:52
My God, I forgot how huge I was then...

zmama
26-12-2011, 18:53:23
and drunk

Lazarus and the Gimp
26-12-2011, 19:45:11
A description of how it went then?

MOBIUS
26-12-2011, 20:07:36
A svelte PH propping up a doorway...?

zmama
29-12-2011, 04:35:50
lih75e6Rb8A

devilmunchkin
31-12-2011, 00:54:17
There are no pictures of the meetup I'm afraid...it would be indecent...

!!!

:shoot:

I think we were both home by 12:30 am. We're old. lol.

We met up at Font. I had a nasty, nasty long island iced tea. Provost had a coke b/c he didn't want to drink. However, I was taking so long with my tea he ordered a beer. In the end, I could only drink a fraction of it. Then we walked around downtown - all the markets were closing though. Went to a bar near Provost's flat - had a coke and sprite. My Sprite was bleh. Then we went home.

The company was good though.

We decided we need to have a meet up near/in Bristol so I can finally meet Laz.

Provost Harrison
31-12-2011, 01:42:38
Bloody hell, you're hard to impress. And I hope my lift home didn't scare you too much ;)

devilmunchkin
31-12-2011, 03:09:09
No no no! The impressions were on the bars, not you. Yes - your car is cool! Like Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles!

New question! I'm noticing that men can speak in generalities. What are the possible meanings of "I like you" when a guy says it?

mr_B
31-12-2011, 04:18:29
everyting between I like you ...... as a person and I like you ...... to blow my dick

Lazarus and the Gimp
31-12-2011, 08:25:09
!!!

We decided we need to have a meet up near/in Bristol so I can finally meet Laz.


Go for Reading. It's pretty easy for me to get to, and you'll catch loads of CG regs.

MOBIUS
31-12-2011, 18:20:42
You might even get me to venture out overseas from Wales. Where's my passport?:drekkus:

devilmunchkin
02-01-2012, 12:50:42
You're in Wales? (If so) awesome - I've gone and done the tourist thing at many of the old castles.

Tizzy
02-01-2012, 18:37:12
Yes, come to Reading!

Funko
03-01-2012, 08:32:50
New question! I'm noticing that men can speak in generalities. What are the possible meanings of "I like you" when a guy says it?

Depends on context. Probably the same as what you would mean if you said it to him.

Funko
03-01-2012, 08:33:43
We can get to Bristol easily enough, and have plenty of people we could stay with if required, but Reading even better for us.

Nills Lagerbaak
03-01-2012, 10:37:42
Bristol is the obvious choice :coolgrin: Far superior selection of Metal/Nerd bars anyway.

MDA
03-01-2012, 12:43:57
metal nerds have to be worth the trip, right?

mr_B
03-01-2012, 13:33:24
I like mental nerds

Dyl Ulenspiegel
03-01-2012, 13:40:24
And mental wards.

mr_B
03-01-2012, 13:54:28
no no

Funko
03-01-2012, 13:59:37
like Dick Grayson?

mr_B
03-01-2012, 14:13:39
who's that?

Funko
03-01-2012, 14:18:51
Batman's mental ward.

Funko
03-01-2012, 14:18:59
Robin.

devilmunchkin
03-01-2012, 14:27:16
mental ward and metal nerd could apply to me.

Then Reading it should be!... whenever that is.

MDA
03-01-2012, 14:53:14
Burt Ward