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RedFred
30-05-2006, 04:14:33
So we have a nice, albeit small condo. When we moved in together we had two of everything. Much consolidation occurred but we still have stuff in storage. Neither of us is materialistic and the last thing we want are a bunch of wedding presents. Worse still we have no place to put them.

So...

Is it possible to somehow gracefully word a wedding invitation to make it clear that wedding presents are not welcome?

Thanks in advance for any serious, thoughtful replies. ;)

Chris
30-05-2006, 04:33:06
Better you then me.

Once is enough.

Asher
30-05-2006, 04:37:20
In lieu of wedding presents, please make a donation to ___________.

notyoueither
30-05-2006, 05:07:10
That sounds a bit to much like a funeral.

Diss
30-05-2006, 05:30:27
gift certificates...

Asher
30-05-2006, 05:34:53
Originally posted by notyoueither
That sounds a bit to much like a funeral.
Yep.

shagnasty
30-05-2006, 06:20:31
Take the damn presents, then send them to me jesjes.:bounce:

Tizzy
30-05-2006, 08:06:01
When my friends got married last year they included a little note with the invitations saying something like "as we have so much stuff already, the only gift we want is for you to join us on our special day".

MoSe
30-05-2006, 08:06:23
Asher gave the more sensible suggestion.
Sums up CG well enough.

I'm sure there are a few cultures where the wedding guests give *wads* of money as present and as symbol of prosperity

best wishes

Kitsuki
30-05-2006, 09:39:41
Originally posted by RedFred
So we have a nice, albeit small condo. When we moved in together we had two of everything. Much consolidation occurred but we still have stuff in storage. Neither of us is materialistic and the last thing we want are a bunch of wedding presents. Worse still we have no place to put them.

So...

Is it possible to somehow gracefully word a wedding invitation to make it clear that wedding presents are not welcome?

Thanks in advance for any serious, thoughtful replies. ;)

My boss recently got married. They worded it something like :

"As we have already set up our homes together we would appreciate contributions toward our Honeymoon."

They set it up so you could go into their travel agents and purchase vouchers. Think they got an awful lot of money towards it and had a wonderful holiday.

I dont think it is rude to direct people in that way - when I buy someone a present, I want to know they will enjoy it.

Funko
30-05-2006, 09:41:23
I don't see why that's any different to having a wedding list.

Kitsuki
30-05-2006, 09:41:42
Actually, it was worded a lot better than that - but you get the drift - I thought it was a good idea.

Almost every couple who get married nowadays have been living together for years, so it is awfully old fashioned to give household gifts.

Ginfizwithatwist
30-05-2006, 10:09:47
you could ask your guests to donate to a charity instead, either one of their own choosing or one you have suggested.

Scabrous Birdseed
30-05-2006, 11:17:38
Ask everyone to make a mix CD.

Scabrous Birdseed
30-05-2006, 11:19:03
Oh, wait, you wanted serious and thoughtful replies. Sorry.

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Gary
30-05-2006, 11:52:34
a) "Please select a wedding present from the following list" then supply an empty list

or

b) "You are invited to the wedding, but due to our exceedingly good taste, could you avoid buying us any wedding presents please ? Thank you."

MoSe
30-05-2006, 12:02:22
a) what's the difference between an empty list and no list?
the border? the bullets?
would be a list of empty items an empty list, or rather a list full of empty items?

b) OK, I won't buy you a present. Would it be OK if I pick up something from the roadside, then?

MDA
30-05-2006, 13:03:12
the empty list will just end in questions about you forgetting to enclose the list - I like Asher's idea

and congratulations!

Oerdin
30-05-2006, 14:08:21
Just take the presents then pawn the stuff you don't like after words.

Venom
30-05-2006, 14:11:08
I need a blender.

MoSe
30-05-2006, 14:33:47
dem are the words

paiktis22
30-05-2006, 15:19:07
Originally posted by Gary
a) "Please select a wedding present from the following list" then supply an empty list

or

b) "You are invited to the wedding, but due to our exceedingly good taste, could you avoid buying us any wedding presents please ? Thank you."

:lol:

paiktis22
30-05-2006, 15:39:38
i remember one custom at the engagement when all family and friends go to the house where the future couple will live and specifically to the bedroom where they start throwing money on the made bed. that's useful. i think the couple made at least 1000 euros from this. too bad they divorced after.

Sir Penguin
30-05-2006, 16:12:51
Originally posted by Oerdin
Just take the presents then pawn the stuff you don't like after words.
So he should take the $100 super-deluxe microwave oven, and pawn it off for $15? Genius.

SP

RedFred
30-05-2006, 19:52:15
Thanks - some good suggestions.

The donations for the honeymoon idea would have been a solution if we hadn't already paid for our Alaska cruise.

The gobs of cash is likely to be a problem as well, at least on the bride's side of the family where cash is the norm not presents. That I can live with provided they don't get out of hand. For example my future father-in-law alone is giving a sum of money that dwarfs $1,000 Es and looks suspiciously like a dowry, because "he gave the same amount at my fiancee's sister's wedding."

Unfortunately my side are from a culture where gift giving is normal but asking for cash is tacky.

The donation idea is okay, but we are trying to channel people away from giving gifts and more to just showing up and having a good time without any obligation for giving stuff.

In the end, we will probably be forced to go down the route Tizzy suggested. Might have to tweak the wording a bit though.

The problem with that is some couples I know who have tried it said they still get a number of presents anyway and because of the lack of gift registry the inappropriate/tacky factor of the few presents they do get climbs dramatically.

Any more thoughts?

Scabrous Birdseed
30-05-2006, 20:02:19
Yard Sale?

Venom
30-05-2006, 20:09:13
Cash bar.

That'll prevent anyone from wanting to give you anything of value.

Funko
31-05-2006, 07:57:36
:lol: