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The Norks
24-11-2005, 15:38:19
I am going to London for the weekend and am meeting the boyf's parents on Friday as its his Dad's birthday and there's a dinner party being had. Does anyone have any survival tactics for this kind of stressful situation? I'm not drinking as I'm on antibiotics, but I'm sure there is much additional potential for disaster- an attack of Tourettes, accidentally choking on food, leaving skirt tucked into knickers etc.

Help me....PLEASE!



:cry:

mr.G
24-11-2005, 15:44:16
ask the mum to show you his babypictures

Nills Lagerbaak
24-11-2005, 15:46:07
Brush ip on manly topics like whiskey, so you can charm the birthday boy. Very important.

Try to avoid contentious issues like rape and alchoholism :)

The Norks
24-11-2005, 15:49:24
:lol: yes I never discuss religion or politics in social situations unless I know the person well. His fave drink is whisky...I'm half Scottish from a whisky distilling family...that gives me two minutes of conversation... I need more!

Funko
24-11-2005, 15:49:50
Stuff like that I normally get a bit nervous about beforehand but I'm fine once I'm there.

It helps me to try and remember that my mother is more nervous than the person being brought home in situations like that.

Don't panic, be yourself, try and relax. Most likely it'll all go really well. In almost all of these situations they should be trying to make you feel at home/welcome etc. and they'll be worried about making a good impression on you as well.

You aren't a totally obnoxious freak so if they have some massive problem with you it's down to their issues. Which you can't do anything about so aren't worth worrying about.

Have fun. :beer:

Tizzy
24-11-2005, 15:50:31
Sounds like a familiar situation :)

No helpful tips though I'm afraid, I was on bad form cos I was stressed about something else so I probably didn't make a great first impression!

Ok, helpful tip, don't be stressed :)

Funko
24-11-2005, 15:54:40
If you mean with my family, they liked you.

Anyway. At the end of the day, doesn't matter what the family thinks really.

MoSe
24-11-2005, 15:57:13
wait a minute
I don't understand
you're english..... can't you just talk about the weather???????

Tizzy
24-11-2005, 15:59:37
I know they did, cos I'm allowed back :) I just meant I could have made a better impression if I'd been on better form.

And it does matter, it can cause a lot of problems if the family don't like your other half.

Funko
24-11-2005, 16:01:13
This is the help Norks not be stressed thread not the stress her out thread! :D

Tizzy
24-11-2005, 16:03:45
Oops sorry Norks :)

Anyway, that doesn't matter cos they will like you :)

The Norks
24-11-2005, 16:13:34
I hope so. Otherwise I'll have to get drastic- wear a low cut top and announce I'm pregnant...that should please both parents!

The Norks
24-11-2005, 16:14:32
btw I love the way youse two have mr & mrs conversations via the medium of posting lol!!

The Norks
24-11-2005, 16:23:30
haha- I hadn't connected these two things until just now but I hired out Monster-in-Law to watch today- did Freud have a point? :D

Funko
24-11-2005, 16:32:51
Just thought of this - whatever you do don't watch Monster-in-Law before you go!!!

Tizzy
24-11-2005, 16:33:58
Or Meet the Parents :D

MoSe
24-11-2005, 16:34:13
but it has a happy ending!
It could teach her what to avoid!
;)

The Norks
24-11-2005, 17:41:05
i love meet the fockers.

this film is pretty funny too.

*nervous laugh*

DevilsH@lo
24-11-2005, 17:47:30
I have absolutely no fucking idea or advice, i use the avoidance is the best policy tactic when it comes to introducing women to my mother, mind you i don't visit her that often so it's not like it's a big deal.

And oh snap, going for dinner on sunday with my girlf's parents for her sisters birthday, not nervous at all, although expecting the stare from her dad...........you know the one "so are you sleeping with my daughter then?"

DAMN STRAIGHT I AM!!!!

The Norks
24-11-2005, 18:40:06
lol! weird coincidence!

I'm just going to be concentrating on not coughing up a lung from this effing chest infection.

Mind you- we all might be going nowhere this weekend given the forecasts

Frozen Frog
24-11-2005, 18:59:11
Make them talk about themselves. Ask questions about their family. And pretend you're interested.

DevilsH@lo
24-11-2005, 19:11:26
Originally posted by The Norks
lol! weird coincidence!

I'm just going to be concentrating on not coughing up a lung from this effing chest infection.

Mind you- we all might be going nowhere this weekend given the forecasts

What forecast :confused:

Are we expecting snow or something, driving in snow is fun. No grip, lots of power, high expectation of collision. What are we waiting for!!!!

:D

DaShi
24-11-2005, 19:35:05
Originally posted by The Norks
I'm not drinking as I'm on antibiotics,

They're still going to think you're pregnant.

Greg W
24-11-2005, 19:45:42
Originally posted by The Norks
...wear a low cut top...Well, that'll get you in well on the dad's part. Though the mum may think you're a hussy. :D

Oh, hang on, this is trying to make her not nervous. :gotit:

You'll do fine Norks. As the others have said, you're not a total weirdo, only partially, so you'll be fine. The important thing - just be yourself. If they don't like you for you, that's their problem. Just don't act fake for them, or then you'll have to do it forever.

Good luck to you and DH though. :beer:

LoD
24-11-2005, 20:01:36
Errr, Greg, I think Norks isn't with DH anymore...
----

Other than that, good luck :)!

DevilsH@lo
24-11-2005, 20:38:04
Err LoD i think he was wishing us both good luck with our respective boyf/girlf parent endeavours.

:D

The Norks
24-11-2005, 21:13:16
Originally posted by DevilsH@lo
What forecast :confused:

Are we expecting snow or something, driving in snow is fun. No grip, lots of power, high expectation of collision. What are we waiting for!!!!

:D

:eek:

you havent seen the forecasts? I'd watch out if I were you- East Anglia always gets hit hard. Its meant to be blizzards tomorrow all over the UK, getting worse on Saturday.

The Norks
24-11-2005, 21:15:03
Originally posted by DaShi
They're still going to think you're pregnant.

yes probably, and especially when I say I've just given up smoking again. Oh well, Jason did say that him being 36 and them being desperate for a grandchild means his parents main criteria are now reduced to 'does she have child bearing hips?', so its possibly a winner :D

The Norks
24-11-2005, 21:20:32
Originally posted by Greg W
Well, that'll get you in well on the dad's part. Though the mum may think you're a hussy. :D

Oh, hang on, this is trying to make her not nervous. :gotit:

You'll do fine Norks. As the others have said, you're not a total weirdo, only partially, so you'll be fine. The important thing - just be yourself. If they don't like you for you, that's their problem. Just don't act fake for them, or then you'll have to do it forever.

Good luck to you and DH though. :beer:

Yes its the partial weirdness bit that worries me!

Hey- maybe DH and I should write each other a reference, you know 'has good table manners, doesn't scare small children, has no criminal record, one careful lady owner' etc. Although the lady owner bit might cast doubt into the minds of Jay's parents... but apart from that :)

DevilsH@lo
24-11-2005, 21:51:27
Originally posted by The Norks
:eek:

you havent seen the forecasts? I'd watch out if I were you- East Anglia always gets hit hard. Its meant to be blizzards tomorrow all over the UK, getting worse on Saturday.

Rear wheel drive, 230+ bhp and an automatic gearbox. What's the worst that can happen.

The Norks
24-11-2005, 23:55:29
you could be driving the car? :D

Funko
25-11-2005, 09:09:31
Originally posted by LoD
Errr, Greg, I think Norks isn't with DH anymore...
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Other than that, good luck :)!

Yes, he meant good luck to both of them both meeting their respective new partners parents this weekend.

LoD
25-11-2005, 09:15:17
Oh shit - I'm sorry.

Greg W
26-11-2005, 01:12:56
:lol: :lol: :lol:

Yes, thanks for pointing that out LoD. :lol:

And don't worry Norks, lady owner will just make the dad even more excited and proud that his son could turn you. ;)

The Norks
27-11-2005, 19:36:27
Woo! They must have liked me- I was invited to Christmas family dinner.

Apparently Jason's dad said 'she seems really nice- what's she like?' ...I'd like to think that's a little insight into some of his exes LOL.

I really liked his parents too, thought they were v nice, v accepting and friendly.

Next stop... the best friend... :eek:

Funko
28-11-2005, 09:03:41
:beer:

nice. :)

Tizzy
28-11-2005, 09:42:39
Yay! :beer:

Greg W
28-11-2005, 10:17:50
Well done. :beer:

Though, jeesus...parents...christmas dinners...slow down girl. :p