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MattHiggs
10-08-2003, 20:24:20
It all started two weeks ago when I found out my girlfriend was pregnant, anti-biotics and the pill don't work so well together, and she was getting pains in her stomach.

I was pretty worried so took her to Accident and Emergency straight away and they believed it could have been an ectopic pregnancy which if not treated straight away could be fatal. Unfortunately there were not enough doctors in to operate straight away so she was put on a ward and told to wait in the morning.

Her blood pressure was dangerously low all night and finally the morning came. I've never cried in my life but I couldn't hold back the tears as I thought, as did she, she wouldn't be waking up after they aneasthatised her. I was trying to be the strong boyfriend as she wouldn't tell any of her family, strict catholics, that she was pregnant.

The operation was a success and the problem was a sist on the fallopian tube but the problem still remains. She is pregnant and we have to wait four weeks to get an abortion as the fetus is only 4 weeks old.

On top of this I am running out of money, my car is a write off, I have rent to pay and I also have a re-sit examination in September I have to pass to get through to next year.

Anyway, I thought I'd share this with you guys as sometimes an anonymous voice is much more comforting.

I'll try and check this thread next time I have internet access. Take care.

notyoueither
10-08-2003, 21:12:26
Oh man, it seems to be pouring on you right now. At least she is OK.

Do you have alternatives for finances?

Alexander's Horse
11-08-2003, 00:15:30
Cheer up - at least you're not pregnant.

self biased
11-08-2003, 01:18:23
yikes. everything works itself out right in the end.

BigGameHunter
11-08-2003, 06:23:13
That bites...big time. Sit down, get your priorities straight and tackle this shit with an eye to the future, as a couple years from now, it will all seem relatively trivial.

And buy some rubbers.

No longer Trippin
11-08-2003, 07:08:58
What about your parents - I know asking them for money for an abortion isn't the easiest of things to do, but you may have to. If you want be that strong boyfriend, you may have to take the ass chewing that may come with it among other things.

I've been there before, so I know you must be going through some serious hell right now, so you two are in my prayers. The important thing is that she is alright and your still by her side doing your best, and that is all that you can do.

BGH is right. Sit down and try to think with a level head for a bit, you'd be amazed once you stop panicking sometimes how things fall into place. And as he said, in a few years, this will be a distant memory.

Darkstar
11-08-2003, 07:12:19
Fuck.

I don't have much else to say, other then:
* Hang in there!
* Try to calm down enough to figure out what your priorities need to be.
* Remember, it will get better.

Bob
11-08-2003, 07:33:36
Having a shit time. One day I'll write a big book about it. Rather a series of books

Darkstar
11-08-2003, 07:37:17
Sorry to hear that Bob. See previous posts then. ;)

Drekkus
11-08-2003, 07:56:07
Sheesh, seems like everyone is up shit creek but me. All the best Higgsy. It must be hard now, but it will pass.

Dyl Ulenspiegel
11-08-2003, 08:10:08
Originally posted by Drekkus
Sheesh, seems like everyone is up shit creek but me.

KG in 3... 2... 1....

No longer Trippin
11-08-2003, 08:24:00
:lol:

Drekkus
11-08-2003, 08:26:52
:lol: KG seems to always be there when the shit hits the fans.

Spartak
11-08-2003, 08:28:25
Or even when the shit is just there.

Funkodrom
11-08-2003, 09:12:46
Hang in there Matt, things will get better. I hope your girlfriend gets better soon.

Originally posted by No longer Trippin
What about your parents - I know asking them for money for an abortion isn't the easiest of things to do

I read that as a general comment about lack of money. I expect the abortion should be on the NHS. Urgh... sounds wrong talking about money with something like this.

King_Ghidra
11-08-2003, 09:24:16
jesus matt, hope things work out for you and the gf

good old nhs anyway, it may be underfunded, overworked or whatever the fuck else is wrong with it, but when you need it, it generally is there for us

Funkodrom
11-08-2003, 09:26:24
Yeah, absolutely.

No longer Trippin
11-08-2003, 09:38:59
Don't exactly know how your health care system works on such matters as abortions, and he was mentioning money problems, so hence why I inserted it - not to be insensitive. Here it's private insurance, your own pocket, or nothing pretty much.

Funkodrom
11-08-2003, 09:55:01
Yeah, I know, was just for information. I felt insenstive, not that what you said was. Needing money for that would be even worse.

No longer Trippin
11-08-2003, 10:01:10
I wasn't sure there, so I was just covering my bases so to speak.

Resource Consumer
11-08-2003, 11:11:29
Matt, that sounds rough. I really don't know what words of wisdom I can add to what the others here have said. As far as any of us here are any use and if talking helps then please feel free to bend our ears and we'll offer what advice or consolation that we can.

MattHiggs
27-01-2006, 13:42:43
Thought I'd bump this and get some closure! Everything did turn out alright in the end - but fuck it was a struggle:D

mr_G
27-01-2006, 13:59:57
a good closure would be a pic of Benman now.

MattHiggs
27-01-2006, 14:15:44
I've got no recent ones on my works computer. I'll see if I can dig up one from a few months ago.

Funko
27-01-2006, 14:23:09
You know what, I was thinking - shit sounds like Matt's having a bad time...

then I saw the date on the original post. :lol:

MattHiggs
27-01-2006, 14:23:25
I've sent a recent one from my phone to my email but it takes about 30 miuntes usually with vodafone.

This one is a few months old.


http://i35.photobucket.com/albums/d195/mattjhiggs/untitled1.jpg

mr_G
27-01-2006, 14:23:57
:lol:

you thought he should know better by now!!!

mr_G
27-01-2006, 14:25:21
nice Xpost.

damn that benkid grows quick

MattHiggs
27-01-2006, 14:28:52
Recent:

http://i35.photobucket.com/albums/d195/mattjhiggs/untitled.jpg

mr_G
27-01-2006, 14:30:31
hmmm didn't grow an inch in those months.

I do think it's quite an achievement to sit in the same pose.

MattHiggs
27-01-2006, 14:34:19
http://i35.photobucket.com/albums/d195/mattjhiggs/ben.png

Scabrous Birdseed
27-01-2006, 14:50:08
So, now that your hardship is over, am I gonna get that 20 back you borrowed off me five years ago?

MattHiggs
27-01-2006, 14:51:13
:eek: :lol:

I completely forgot about that!

PM me your address :lol:

Kitsuki
27-01-2006, 14:52:11
I read it and didnt look at the date and thought poor guy - nice to see it in fact has all worked out. :)

Scabrous Birdseed
27-01-2006, 14:55:08
Nah, it's all right, but you're buying double rounds next time we're at the same CG meeting!

MattHiggs
27-01-2006, 14:59:07
Originally posted by Kitsuki
I read it and didnt look at the date and thought poor guy - nice to see it in fact has all worked out. :)

Smoking 20 cigs a day and playing Pro Evo with my mates whilst drunk every night helped. :)

MattHiggs
27-01-2006, 15:04:03
Originally posted by Scabrous Birdseed
Nah, it's all right, but you're buying double rounds next time we're at the same CG meeting!

That night was so scary. Driving over the Pennines in a huge storm with the tiniest amount of petrol was awful. The motorway was empty and I was getting blown between three lanes - plus I hate going over Saddleworth Moor anyway (Brady and Hindley :cry:)

MoSe
27-01-2006, 15:30:13
<OPENS TIME MACHINE>
Originally posted by Drekkus
Sheesh, seems like everyone is up shit creek but me.

:slackjaw:
:shudder:

Immortal Wombat
27-01-2006, 16:45:00
Originally posted by Funko
You know what, I was thinking - shit sounds like Matt's having a bad time...
Me too. I got to "she wouldn't tell any of her family, strict catholics, that she was pregnant"

And thought "...again?" before checking.

Japher
27-01-2006, 17:56:10
Ben is pretty cute for an abortion

mr_G
27-01-2006, 18:00:54
:lol: